An Inspirational Speaker @ The Re-De-Fined Project
Too
often we as adults focus on obtaining a desired result and expect our youth to
win or overcome. We end up getting
disappointed because they cannot deliver or make the simple decisions that are
required to be competitive on the field of life. Our attention is on the end
result, rather than on preparing our youth to execute during their performances.
Execution starts on the practice field and only after numerous hours of proper
practice and hard work will it be carried on to real life situations.
One of the common denominators upon successful
performers or athletes is 10,000 hours of practice (perfect practice). Thus,
to be successful at anything, it requires hard work, dedication,
determination and discipline. On the same token, we expect our youth to hit singles, doubles, triples, or even homeruns when facing the challenges of life. Instead of focusing on the end result, we should teach our youth to focus on executing a perfect swing and fielding a ground ball, catching a fly ball, or delivering a pitch fundamentally correct. Youth need to understand that there are things that he/she cannot control, like getting a hit. A baseball player has no control on what happens after he executes on his swing and hits a line drive. The other team might make a great play and make the out, but the important thing is that the player executed correctly and not that he did not get a hit. As it is in life, we need to encourage youth even when they fail at something after putting in the hard work to complete the task.
I have seen many instances where a player hits
a hard line drive and somehow gets put out. Then goes back to the dugout with
his head down or even sometimes takes his helmet off and throws it on the
ground. This is mainly as a result of coaches or parents expecting their kids
to get a hit, rather than expecting them to hit the ball with proper form. Help the players focus on execution rather
than results, on what they can control rather than what they cannot
control. Praise them for hitting the
ball, not just when they get a hit.
Winning
is a result of hard work, dedication, determination and discipline. Focus on
the latter four and winning will take care of itself. This is why I don’t like
to talk about winning during speeches or instructional work. We focus on what
we have control of; like working hard, getting our perfect repetitions and
developing mental toughness. As I sat and watched game 3 of the World Series between the San Francisco Giants and Detroit Tigers, I could not help but to wrap this latest message into baseball terminology. The hits in the game of baseball are just like the everyday successes our youth see but are not given recognition for. We only celebrate them when it is a large accomplishment (home run). Let’s get back to basics by teaching and coaching morals and values. No matter what the score is in life, if our youth are given the proper strategies during the critical learning phase, ages 10 – 18, we will minimize their thirst to want to follow the “In Crowd.” We have all been there where we see something that really isn’t there. Love at 16 felt like it was going to be marriage and life happily ever after. Only to mature and learn that we didn’t know what love was until we endured hurts, pains, ups and downs. Just like the last out of every World Series recorded in history, win or lose, spring training will return in March. Help us to keep the basics of morals and values in our youth. Celebrate them for the work and efforts they are putting into their service. Life is not always about winning. Some of my losses have been much more valuable than the wins. I am sure you can go back in your past and think of some things or people you drifted apart from which felt like a tremendous loss at the time, only to mature and learn, you would not be where you are had you stuck around that negative thing or person. Let’s embrace the fundamentals.
